Compatibility
People form a group where their likes dislikes match.
But Sometimes there meet people whose likes dislikes do not match but they have a level where their adjustment level, acceptance level match. There is a match of giving attention to each other's thoughts even when they do not agree. So, it's like you enjoy talking because of healthy input from both the sides. To me, this is compatibility.
Meeting with people who are compatible - is not very common. It may happen that the person you are staying with for many years is not compatible but the one whom you know just for few days/months might be really compatible. There is no limitation of duration for this. :)
Somehow I think, your love must also be someone who is compatible with you - who would respect your thoughts, who would give input of his thoughts equally, who 'might' oppose, might accept.
Compatibility, in other words, is to Help each other build up mature environment of acceptance.
But Sometimes there meet people whose likes dislikes do not match but they have a level where their adjustment level, acceptance level match. There is a match of giving attention to each other's thoughts even when they do not agree. So, it's like you enjoy talking because of healthy input from both the sides. To me, this is compatibility.
Meeting with people who are compatible - is not very common. It may happen that the person you are staying with for many years is not compatible but the one whom you know just for few days/months might be really compatible. There is no limitation of duration for this. :)
Somehow I think, your love must also be someone who is compatible with you - who would respect your thoughts, who would give input of his thoughts equally, who 'might' oppose, might accept.
Compatibility, in other words, is to Help each other build up mature environment of acceptance.
posted by Krupa at
6:19 PM
14 Comments:
i agree. but for people to be compatible both parties should be mature enuf to respect the other's opinion. ppl like me are just too short tempered to bother about other's views :)
To anonymous:
Nobody is born compatible.
Everyone learns with experience to control their short temperament, because after all at one point of time, you will find that there is no-good, no-point in being short tempered.
And in my post, I said - your lover should be compatible, but I also mean that every compatible person need not be your lover/partenr :) ;)
I think compatibility either u have or u dont!! :)
U Can not develop it...
Did you ever adjusted with the habits of your mom/dad/sister/friend? Have done anything just for their sake?
May be adjustment without negative/obligatory feeling within - can be called as 'developing compatibility'.
I will again say, it doesn't happen with everyone that you have defined-compatibility, many a times you develop it. But Normally, you fall in love with someone with whom you already feel compatibility. ;)
~KrupA
I think falling in love and compatibility are two different streams krupa... one can happen without another... I could share a great rapport with someone and hence have a great compatibility, but, I may not love him/her!!
What say? Makes sense... Doesnt it???
About adjusting, I am all for it... The point being, u can adjust only to an extent... while incompatibility sometimes targets the fundamentals on which ur life is based... That can not be compromised for anyone!!!
I think the compatibility depends on the level of love and patience yu have for the other partner and if it exists, compatibility will automatically come.
Neha..
I agree with what you said..nothing to oppose..
But just pasting a part from my post only -
"Somehow I think, your love must also be someone who is compatible with you - who would respect your thoughts, who would give input of his thoughts equally, who 'might' oppose, might accept"
I really did not say that every compatible person has to be ur love.. but ya.. normally if u happen to fall in love with someone then that will be whom u feel the compatibility with... ;)
Hey Manik,
Based on what I understood from what you said -- I think I am talking about feeling the compatibility with a person first and then you might fall in love with that person..
May be what you are saying is applicable when someone has already crossed that phase of feeling compatibility and confirming with his heart that he is love and then seeing the compatibility coming/growing automatically with time and growth of love.
Thanks for the comment!
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Compatibility..... mmmmmm... a Perception, Can change...
Love.... again a perception, Can change...
So... Can we be compatible with many?
If so... Can't we love* many?? :-?
* Love - not the physical one...
Yes! we can love many people in this world. After all Only 'Love' is real. And regarding Perception - yes it can change with experiences in life.
'My' Perception - Love is real and pure and when in love you must be compatible with the partner , else there is no fun :)
Ok...
During love, doesn't everything looks right? as a dream come true... isn't mistakes which we don't bear with others look so sweet... Will we be the best judge of compatibility when in love? will we not be biased, skewed?? mmm?
When in Love, 'you' can only be your best judge, not any third person, after all no one else can judge your own feelings.
Regarding 'things look right in love' - Let me say, everyone is good when you start knowing a person. Even if a person smokes or person makes scandals, when you are compatible with that person, you feel to help that person to change 'for good'. And trust me if both of you are compatible, the other person 'will' change for the good.
So compatibility is not the outcome of 'Love' but 'Love' CAN be the following event of Compatible relation.
Yeah, I am the best judge for me... still couldn't convince me, that I am an impartial one...
Should we expect our loved ones to change for us? Is expectations allowed in love? :-?
mmmm... yeah that makes sense.. like.. one know what he/she going to get and then buy it... rather than buy first and then search for what he/she had got...
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